Solo Sex Ritual
The Solo Sex Ritual is a communal experience of the solo erotic. Together, as a group, we explore our individual experience of self pleasure, self loving, masturbation, arousal, curiosity, skin, orgasm, sound, and mystery.
The intention for this ritual is to deepen your relationship with your body and sexual curiosity, to fortify the pathways to pleasure and bodily autonomy, and to direct and define your sexual healing. In a sacred space, we will raise energy, courage, and connection to your bigger sexual, relational, artistic, spiritual, or big vision purpose goals in your life. We are connecting your sexual power with the rest of your life.
There are 5 parts: 1. Grounding and Warm Up; 2. Body Touch Facilitation; 3. Freestyle; 4. Stillness; 5. Debrief
Let me tell you what it has been like for me.
The intention for this ritual is to deepen your relationship with your body and sexual curiosity, to fortify the pathways to pleasure and bodily autonomy, and to direct and define your sexual healing. In a sacred space, we will raise energy, courage, and connection to your bigger sexual, relational, artistic, spiritual, or big vision purpose goals in your life. We are connecting your sexual power with the rest of your life.
There are 5 parts: 1. Grounding and Warm Up; 2. Body Touch Facilitation; 3. Freestyle; 4. Stillness; 5. Debrief
Let me tell you what it has been like for me.
"Eva is a leader of sexual liberation. But even the leader experiences her own sexual journey, even while leading others. And the revelations can be astonishingly soul-shaking."
-- The Mystery Box Show
-- The Mystery Box Show
What I didn't say...
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I didn't say that I typically don't have a wonder or freak out about being "too much" or "too kinky" when I'm alone masturbating, when I am with partners in sexual activity, or when I'm at erotic events or play parties.
When I wear that chest harness in my private life, even when other people see me, or in public, I don't freak out. I don't second guess myself. I don't catch my breath in fear. I don't wonder how you will react, whether you will still like me or trust me when you see how much I love wearing this harness. When I wear that chest harness, I feel amazing and powerful. I love the sparkle of the rhinestones and the originality of the design. I love that I made it, that I was taught how to make it, and that it fits me perfectly. So, when I do have that judgement, that doubt shouting loud in my mind in this environment of leading a group, it feels significant. Significant enough to explore, to pay attention to, to name, and to heal. Telling this story has been so valuable for clarifying my own truth, reckoning with the instinct to hide in the face of shame, and giving myself evidence of surviving scary moments and arriving in power and pleasure. As I write this, I realize that living in my power, feeling solid, confident, courageous, and excelling in all parts of my life has, for much of the last year, felt fleeting, contracted, and depressed. I facilitate this ritual in order to undermine the staying power of helplessness, alienation, and stagnation in body or thought or behavior. Telling this story during the dark of the winter, is also part that practice to wake up, to come home to the inherent wisdom of my body and soul, to find and create evidence of resilience to find my way back to confident and courageous. I also tell this story to normalize, to make common, so much of the inner dialogue I hear from so many of the people I talk to about sex, intimacy, and relationships. Many people have shared their assumptions about me over the years: fearless, "you make it look so easy," "its so natural for you," "I bet you don't stress out over this stuff at all." But clearly, the truth is that, I do. There is nothing inherently different between me and any of the people I have worked with over the last 10 years I have been doing sexuality work. I wasn't born any more daring or intelligent or special in these ways. I, too, am working at it, learning, and trying to stay present in all my moments. |